In many cases, there are marriages that end where spouses are not on good terms. Going into these situations, they may believe that it will be impossible to go through the proceedings without conflict or hostility. However, there are ways that this can be de-escalated during this time. It is important for any parties of a divorce to learn how to keep hostility to a minimum during a divorce, especially if there are children involved. Continue reading below to learn more about how this can be done and retain the services of an experienced New Jersey divorce attorney for assistance with your case.
How Can I Go Through a Non-Hostile Divorce?
Contrary to popular belief, it is possible to go through a divorce with as little conflict as possible. It takes certain skills and a great deal of effort to put your best foot forward and learn how to work through disagreements with a person you no longer get along with. The following are a different tools that spouses can use during this time to keep hostility to a minimum throughout divorce proceedings:
- Practice radical acceptance. Not accepting the reality of the situation can draw out angry emotions throughout the proceedings. By accepting the divorce, you are able to use your energy on making the best choices for you.
- Be a flexible thinker. Looking at a divorce as having one possible solution can only harm you in the long run. Be open to different options and compromise with your former spouse. Otherwise, it can invite further conflict into the situation.
- Manage your emotions. Divorces are extremely emotional. Trying to communicate with your spouse when these are heightened can cause further additional problems, which is why it is important to develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage these feelings.
- Communicate effectively. By implementing effective communication strategies when speaking with your spouse, you can leave your feelings and opinions out of the discussion. It is also important to speak concisely and in a neutral tone.
- Do not care about what your former spouse thinks. It is understandable to feel misunderstood or disrespected during a divorce. However, sitting in these feelings can lead to unpleasant feelings that cause you to argue. It is best to remove yourself from this thought process so they do not impact the proceedings.
- Focus on your behavior only. If your mind is constantly thinking about the actions of your spouse, it can cloud your judgment. Being in control of your emotions and actions can allow you to minimize conflict.
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We understand how emotional and difficult matters of family law can be. If you need the assistance of a knowledgeable attorney to help protect your right to your family, please do not hesitate to contact our experienced firm. We are eager and dedicated to helping you through this difficult time. Our personal injury specialists at Greenberg & Walden, LLC are standing by for a free initial consultation. Call us at 201-528-6928.